I don’t understand why some people are just so miserable that they feel the need to spread it around, to make everyone else miserable or to get others to jump on their miserable band-wagon. I guess that age old saying is true– “Misery loves company!”
As I blog and you get to know the inner workings of my mind, you will see I’m not perfect. I don’t claim to be or even want to be. I am a sarcastic, opinionated bitch. I have a very short fuse and hate many things and people. But I do NOT let that part of my personality consume me. Ever. As someone who battles with depression and bi-polar disorder, I cannot allow myself to feel this way all the time because it will drag me down. I have many wonderful things in my life. I have much to be happy and thankful for. I let those feelings consume. The happy, warm, joyfully positive feelings, thoughts and memories. Of course there will be times when the negative creep in. When I feel depressed and lost and sad. But that’s my own personal battle and I never, EVER try to drag down others with me.
Why is it that there are so many people that allow the negative to BECOME them. People who are constantly trying to knock others down. It’s bullying. You get bullied in grade school and you get bullied as an adult. It hasn’t stopped, it never ends. What’s even funnier to me is this: when looking at these adult bullies, I see people who were no doubt bullied themselves. Mean mean girls. And I guarantee you, if I posted a Facebook status about this(you know, Vaguebook, passive aggressive-ness) these people would be among the FIRST to “like” it. So what is that saying? That they know it’s about them and are embracing their “mean girl” status? That they really don’t think they are like that and are so holier than thou that they can put others down for behaving that way, but don’t see it in themselves.
I have never been a “sheep.” I never followed the crowd. Of course there would be trends that I would follow, but I have never and will never compromise or change who I am because of someone else. I will never jump on a band-wagon. I form my OWN opinions. I take chances and have experiences, do new things and meet new people and I form my own opinions ON MY OWN based on these interactions and experiences. I like what I like because I like it. I look at the big picture. I am not narrow and close minded. Everyone deserves an equal chance and I always look at MY own actions before I judge others, because, let’s face it, sometimes how you react and behave can reflect how others behave TOWARDS you. There’s a saying that says something like, you can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you REACT to what happens.
More along the lines of what is eating at me… a comparison is this. Let’s say I go to a restaurant and I don’t like everything on the menu and I’ve had one or two bad waiters. But there’s also one or two things I really enjoyed on the menu and I had great interactions with other staff members. Am I going to go bad mouth the restaurant and boycott and refuse to eat there and try to get all my friends and everyone I know on board with me? Um… no. That’s not the way the world works. Why would I boycott an entire restaurant due to a few negative interactions. That makes sense, right? So without divulging any info on my personal life, let’s use that comparison to what I’m dealing with right now. It just makes me sad.
And it frustrates the living CRAP out of me!!!
There’s also another saying that I’m sure most of our parents told us when we were younger. “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I wish more people would follow that. Coming from someone who has NO filter, but who knows how to bite her freaking tongue, this shouldn’t be too hard, people! Think before you speak. Reflect on your own actions. You are NOT perfect. Stop acting like it. Stop being passive aggressive and fighting with your fists or by talking behind backs. Confront your problems and issues with people like a mature adult. Be calm. Be professional. One day, if not already, you will have kids of your own. Would you want them to behave like you? Or to do better? Some food for thought…